One of the things humans are most proud of in our lives is how busy we all are. Being busy became a necessity, even an obsession for some of us. I’m saying that out of experience, I’m not judging others, I’m mostly judging and observing the younger version of myself, a free and spirited teenager versus my current version of a tired mother of two. In both cases I acted the same.
At one point we are almost ashamed to say that today we are just chilling. We are actually obsessed to occupy all our time and then complain about how exhausted we are. We are so stressed out about the little things and we add importance to meaningless stuff. We are sad, angry, always complaining and very irritated all day long. But Oooh, how we love saying “I’m just sooo busy and I have so many things to do!”
We feel like we value more and we deserve more attention if we work until we drop. Stopping is shameful.
I have insomnia since childhood and close friends know how awful it was back then and how it still affects me. I just can’t close my eyes if I didn’t have a productive day or I have something to take care of the next day. Being creative and artistic doesn’t help either, I constantly have to create and my mind doesn’t stop. These are my faults, I know them and accept them as a part of me, but being a mother has taught me so many things. One of those things is that being busy is NOT a virtue.
It’s a constant struggle for me every day, but I finally understood that I can proudly say “Today I’m not doing anything, I’m just chilling.” Yes, I still cooked, did laundry, bathed the girls and wrote an article. But I didn’t do all those things with the attitude of a busy and stressed out person. Today I stopped and tickled the girls on the laundry before putting it away. Emma spilled some water on the kitchen floor; after I helped her clean up, I dragged her through the house on the towel and I loved her laughing. Anna got fussy while I was doing the dishes and without telling myself “Oh, not now, Anna! I have so many dishes to do!” I took her outside for a walk. I let the girls splash as much as they wanted during bath time and I decided to only see Anna’s rolls dancing while she laughed, not the water spilled on the floor.
I’m not saying that being busy is a bad thing, not at all! I think that’s obvious! We do have to work: “first we take care of urgent things, then important ones and finally all the other things.” (Little poem learned in childhood). But at the same time we must find a balance between work and rest, between stressing and relaxing, without feeling guilty if we just do nothing sometimes.
When we were taking these photos I was constantly stressed out. I worried about Anna not falling asleep in her father’s arms, I worried about Emma missing and waiting for us, I kept thinking if my husband is hungry or if we have enough gas to get home that day. But I decided to stop. I decided to stop and enjoy the quiet and the lovely photographer who I loved spending my time with. I enjoyed the nature, the lovely wind and the sound of the leaves dancing. But mostly, I enjoyed my new dress from Osaha in Eliana mall, in Brasov. Such a lovely, comfortable dress, with a vintage vibe and perfect length for me. I never looked for cross-over dresses because, let’s be real, moms can’t really wear them as we are mostly spending our time on our children’s level. But this dress doesn’t open like it would normally do, it is like a normal dress with another piece of material on top. That’s what I loved about it. Actually the entire Osaha store had my heart. It’s a home for hundreds of dresses, all kinds of shapes, fabrics and prints. It’s so awesome! Well I’m not actually surprised as it is a family business for decades. The sales lady actually works there for more than 10 years. Osaha is simply a family. The only thing missing is a cup of tea and some biscuits and we got ourselves a family evening in the living room.😊
Getting back to our subject, don’t forget we need to simply stop sometimes. For the sake of life. For the sake of our family, our mental and spiritual health. For the sake of little moments and things that really bring value to our lives.
And when we are asked “What are you up to today?”, sometimes let’s just answer by smiling and saying “Nothing.”🙂